We’ve all been there and know that a breakup can significantly upset your entire world. For whatever reason the breakup may have occurred, it still hurts, a lot. How we react and respond to breakup drama significantly affects the way we feel.
Some say ok, it’s time to figure out what’s going on with my ex. Checking their social media pages, talking to their friends, finding out the “scoop”. Does that really help? Does that make you feel any better? When really asking yourself that question the answer is probably no, so let’s change it up.
What can we do to help relieve the pain and stress involved with a breakup? I’ve created a list of healthy tips on how to work through the emotions surrounding a breakup. The do’s and don’ts.
Do’s
First and foremost is self-care. Taking care of yourself is essential when you’re going through a tough time. Whether it’s getting a manicure or massage or eating and sleeping well, it’s all self-care and essential to your well-being.
Next, surround yourself with good friends and family. A great support system is essential when you’re experiencing being in this vulnerable place.
How about practicing some healthy coping skills? It’s essential to your well-being and recovery.
Journal journal journal, journaling your emotions can really help to speak to your inner emotions and allow yourself to express your emotions in a healthy manner.
Exercise!!! Get out, walk around, take a class, go to the gym, and increase the endorphins.
Challenging your negative thoughts can also be very helpful in your recovery. Challenge these negative thoughts and work towards positive thinking, one step at a time.
Mindfulness is also extremely helpful. Focus on the here and now, take it slow, one day at a time. Be kind to yourself, you deserve it.
Be patient! A breakup is like mourning. The grievance process can take time.
Don’ts
Do not talk to your ex’s friends or follow their social media. This is only a recipe for disaster.
Do not talk bad about your ex to their friends and family. You’re feeling angry and upset. That is understandable, but having these conversations only draws you into a darker place.
Don’t blame!! Blaming becomes a big part of the unanswered questions after a break, but the blame game gets your nowhere fast. Stay away from that negative place and focus on the future, your positive future.
Don’t pretend your fine. Be true to yourself and your emotions. If you need to cry, let it all out. It’s essential to feel your emotions and go through each to reach the road to recovery.
Do not seek revenge. You’re angry, you feel vulnerable and sad. Seeking revenge seems natural, but it’s not going to have any positive end results. I promise you that, so stay away from the revenge and seek peace instead.
Don’t repeat mistakes. Don’t keep your ex in your life. Things change for a reason, and it’s better to leave the past in the past, it’s there for a reason.
Do not self-destruct. You’re upset and it’s clear, but don’t go down the road of self-destruction. In the end, the only one suffering is you, so do the opposite. Focus on what makes you happy.
Do not isolate yourself. You may feel like becoming a hermit, but it’s not going to help with the healing process. Do the opposite, surround yourself with a great support system, keep yourself busy and happy.
Next Step
Take time for yourself, creating your own happiness, and again, patience is key. It takes time, and as long as the essentials of your well-being are practiced, things will get easier. Although it’s hard to believe at first, with time, all wounds will heal.
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Super great advice. As soon as my ex and I broke up, I not only unfriended him on all social media, but also blocked him so I wouldn’t check up on him. It’s just not healthy and it doesn’t allow a full-on letting go. Plus, it hurts when the former starts seeing someone else and splashes pictures everywhere. Great post!
True Kristi, we can never let go of the past if we keep seeing things that reminds us about that certain past. They are ex for a reaaon ☺️
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Nice one
I so needed this so thank you for sharing these tips
Nice content! I will try to share it with my friends so that they don’t get depressed 😊
A lot of things happens after a breakup both Physically and emotionally and I feel adding drama to the already complicated situation is doing too much. Thanks for this tips.
Good advice, but some people are too emotional with that!
Really nice advice! Wished I had this when I was going through my past break ups.
A break-up really wounds us to the very core. It is a painful grieving process we must endure. I’ve learned that self-care and self-love is vital during this time.
Your advice on coping mechanism that gear towards positivity is also great for an over all well being…. After all, it’s not healthy to dwell on negativity…. Grudge will ruin everything that is good in you….. Positivity wins…..
These are great tips, often when people break up, they start bad talking the ex, I agree that they shouldn’t.
These tips are great! Self care is the most important DO after a breakup and while in a relationship
Good advice for moving on and taking care of yourself.
Don’t keep your ex in your life. I love this point!
Self-care is so essential. And having positive mindset and support of family and friends.
I was hiking almost every weekend when i was in this painful time, but i made it through.
Thank you for this positive sharing.
Break ups are never easy. Thanks for the do’s and don’ts. Found the post helpful for reflections. Though we feel, one of the don’t could be in do’s .. it is important to talk with family and friends otherwise, we may end up pretending that everything is alright. Just another perspective .. Best.. Backpacking Series
I’ve been through this before actually after I experience heartbreak I’m just focus to my career and more spend to travel But honestly moving on is not easy it will take a long time. Very nice post!
I have experienced this in the past and completely agree. Great advice for anyone going through a break up!
Emotions and drrama everywhere. It’s so hard this days
This a wonderful post. I haven’t been dating since 10 years ago but I wish I had the same advice around when I broke up with my first love. It was painful but I got over it.
Time heals everything and yes I agree, one must not get into blame game rather be patient
how we wish we had this when we were growing up
Found the post helpful for reflections while people going through the breakup drama, Break ups are never easy “Make some time to overcome from breakups”
Good thoughts..letting go is always hard
What a GREAT article! You are so incredibly right! I just find it really interesting that you’ve put in this post.
After relationship is over, try to win him/her back anymore. give her veto power over your future? like a rebounding relation.
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If you were with your ex in a serious, want to committed relationship & enter a rebound relationship this usually works in your favor.
It comes to getting back with your ex as it allows time to heal the wounds and erase some of the negative memories.
Learning to trust again and love again after a relationship comes to an end is a slow and painful process. thanks for sharing helpful steps!
Great post! it’s always great to take time, rethink things again for exgirlfriend back. If you were with your ex in a serious, want to committed relationship & enter a rebound relationship this usually works in your favor.
Making a relationship work requires give and take on both sides and you may need to make compromises. and must be leave a ego problems both sides. nice post! thanks.
Making a relationship work requires give and take on both sides and you may need to make compromises. and must be leave a ego problems both sides. nice post! thanks.
I like your stuff, thanks for nice post with us! If you have found a woman who has some or all of these qualities, treat her well and never let her go. Your life will be better for having her.