Courage to Let Go and Move On

courage to let go

Hey there, I’m glad you made it here. This page is for you and for people like you and me; Strong and Courageous. You may be experiencing pain from break ups, from divorce, or the most painful of all, losing your child, but remember, the struggles we’re facing today are developing the courage to let go and strength we will need for tomorrow.

Those struggles may appear in different forms. In my case, struggles went from mild to severe within very short period of time. First I was a victim of a cheating spouse few years ago.

Being the Victim

I was a victim of verbal abuse, and I suffered from being abused mentally, financially, and physically. I’ve been lead to believe that I wasn’t good enough and that I deserved what was served to me. I was afraid to move on, because I loved him and I told myself I won’t be able to find a man like him, so I did what most spouses do, be a martyr and try to save the marriage. I let him do what he wanted to do, I let him walk over me, for the sake of saving the marriage and hoping that maybe one day the man I fell in love with will comeback. Sounds familiar?

How long could you endure the pain of loving someone that doesn’t value you anymore? See, loving someone doesn’t mean you should be with them. Trying to save the broken glass will only cut you and make you bleed. Be brave, throw away that broken glass and be strong to face the challenge that comes next.


You’re too strong to live your life hurting. You are too beautiful to let someone’s ugly ways make you insecure of yourself. Never allow detestable people to hurt you.

After I gained the courage to let go and move on with my life, I regained my confidence. I loved and gave value to myself and the result fascinated me.

Remember when you were thinking that maybe you won’t find someone like that person you used to love? You’re right with that. You will never find someone like that again because the persons you will attract are those people that will see the greatest value in you.

Letting Go of the Past

Moving on and letting go of my past toxic relationship blessed me with a man whom I call my un-married husband. He is my strength when I am weak, my guide when I’m lost, and the light in my darkness, (not trying to be cheesy). Not to mention my walking encyclopedia, no kidding aside.

Our love had given us a wonderful gift. We were overjoyed with the news that I am carrying our baby. We couldn’t ask for more, it all seemed great and I was perfectly happy. Then, I was hit with the severe storm.

Life has played me again. Not long ago, we lost our Angel just a few weeks before the due date. It was the most agonizing feeling I had ever felt in my entire life. Holding your child in your arms for the first, last, and only time unlocks a pain your soul never imagined possible.


Courage to Let Go

Why do I have to say goodbye before I can have a chance to say hello? How I’d love to hear the sound of her cry. Each day I wished it’s only a nightmare and when I wake up, our baby would still be with us. How can you overcome that pain? How can you live again without the one that completes you?

When you lose a child, you lose an entire lifetime of dreams, wishes and plans, but somehow, we have get courage to let go and move on. Yes, we will never be the same. The hardest part of losing a baby is living everyday afterwards, but one way or another we have to make that step forward. It’s not easy, but one step at a time, we can and we will get through it.

For that reason, this site came to be; to encourage everyone that is or was in the same position like me. Let’s help each other, empower and uplift one another. 

Share your stories to help other people overcome their loss and grief. To all the people that are dealing with a broken heart, remember, you are strong and you are beautiful, so put those broken pieces together and love yourself. The right person will come and will show you how it feels to be truly loved.

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Crisly Todorovic

Crisly Todorovic

This Post Has 52 Comments

  1. Blogaberry Foo

    Hey .. to be happy, you need to love and respect yourself and also help yourself… thats what i believe despite having someone who cares for me dearly! Nice thought though! Keep writing!

  2. Crisly Zerrudo

    HI Blogaberry,
    It’s true, happiness comes from within. We need to start loving and caring for ourselves first.

  3. Crisly Zerrudo

    I will surely check out your blogs. Thank you for the encouraging words.

  4. msarora

    leave the past and keep going…that’s the only way to be happy.
    Keep writing…

  5. Sylvia Jo

    Thank you share your story of hurt and loss and your journey moving forward. My heart goes out to you, but it also celebrates your courage and strength in being willing to share. Sometimes it wont feel like it, but your story is a gift to the world, to anyone searching for a way to overcome or move forward.

    1. Crisly Zerrudo

      Hi Sylvia,
      I appreciate your support and understanding. The words you wrote provided a pleasant insight which will help me in the future writing efforts.
      Warm regards, Crisly.

  6. Diganta Misra

    I was physically abused in my schooldays so I can absolutely relate and understand how horrific it would have been for you. On a contrary though, I could nor can ever let go of my past, I carry the scars as trophies and the past as memories and instances from which I always learn, The past molded me, made me who I’m today and I will always cherish it irrespective of whether I regret certain events happened during that time. I agree on the fact happiness comes from within and sometimes we have to adapt to survive, to smile. Great writing. Keep it up

    1. Crisly Zerrudo

      Thank you for your support, it give me more inspiration to keep writing.
      Our past is a great teacher, it made us who we are today.

  7. Avid Observer

    The motive that your blog is carrying and also your words are equally strong. Looking forward for some more empowering posts from you.
    Good Luck and Congratulations for the upcoming happiness in your life. 🙂 ????

    1. Crisly Zerrudo

      Thank you, I am really inspired and looking forward for more writings.

      1. Avid Observer

        You’re welcome. Just one more thing you need a follow button on your blog. I couldn’t follow you because of it.

        1. Crisly Zerrudo

          Thank you, I will work on that. I still have a lot to learn about blogging, like following button and stuff. Thanks for the heads up.

  8. Marathon Momma

    What a heartache you experienced and are still experiencing! I’m so sorry for you very painful and personal loss.

    1. Crisly Zerrudo

      They say, time is the best healer, I will never be healed completely from losing my child, but I am moving forward. Thank you.

  9. Astha Bhardwaj

    This was really touching. I’m so sorry for your loss. But, I do believe in the fact that everything happens for a reason. You just don’t get to know it until you really search for it.
    Keep writing. It always help in the healing process.❤

    1. Crisly Zerrudo

      That’s sweet of you, thank you. Indeed, everything happens for a reason, I just don’t know the reason yet.

  10. Oh wow Crisly, I’m happy to be reading this. It’s true what you say, let go of the broken glass. I’m much happier and stronger today because I let go of the very man I loved so much that brought nothing to my life but hurt. Thank you so much for sharing your experiences.

    1. Crisly Zerrudo

      Thank you Tanyi, true that ending a aerious relationship hurt so much, but staying in a toxic relationship hurt more. Im happy to know that you are one of the stronger women that fight for their rights to be happy.

  11. elizabethbrico

    I am so sorry about the loss of your child. I am a mother too and I cannot imagine that pain. You are very brave for continuing forward.
    I do know the pain of abuse-I was abused for four years by the man i loved and it left me with PTSD which is very hard to live with. I blog about it.
    Your words are very inspirational and I’d like to invite you to join my new link up party for MH bloggers..I think this would be a lovely addition to week 2. -if you’d like ????

  12. Crisly Zerrudo

    Hi Elizabeth, the pain of losing someone that complete you is unbearable. Especially when you dont get an explanation of why it happened. With the help of my unmarried husband I was able to slowly take the steps forward.
    Indeed PTSD is hard to live with, I suffered from it and fortunately he’s very helpful that I think I got better. Sorry about your abuse, it seems that good people always have a bad partner, just so we will know what a good one when they come.

    P.S… I visited your page, and left you a comment, please let me know more about it as I am not sure. Thank you.

  13. Hello Crisly, sincere I love you already and I think you’re a graet person and I still hope that those heartbreaking moments you experienced have only made you stronger and realize that you are not weak.
    Life can be weird but just like Celine Dion said “we have to know soe bad times or our lives are incomplete”
    Great piece though, keep it up.

    1. Crisly Zerrudo

      Aw Lydia your sweet thank you very much ❤️. Yes I didn’t have an idea how strong I was, til I was tested. We won’t really appreciate how beautiful life is without difficulties right?

  14. Amal Suresh

    Its tough sometimes. We have to face things never imagined. But thats the beauty of life. It has its own ways to make us realise, understand and learn things from life itself. M happy for you where you are now, sitting tight, having your faith and moving on from every problems. Way to go.

    1. Crisly Zerrudo

      The beauty of life will reveal when we go though ugliness,and that’s how we can see it. Thank you.

  15. misstalkingfeet

    I am glad you used writing as a way to vent your emotions and those who deserve your respect are the ones who treat you with respect ❤️

  16. marisselee

    I have mixed emotions toward sorrow, you know? Because while it is always painful to go through stuff like you talked about, still I cannot help but say that it does always bring something beautiful…some people like you and me found the solace of creativity in order to deal with the pain. Now you are inspiring people. And it is a good thing. Although my heart breaks with your story about your baby. That is a different kind of pain.

    1. Crisly Zerrudo

      Life will always play with us, and we have to learn how to deal with it. It’s not easy to continue forward and put the broken pieces of myself together, but if we let bad things destroy us, we are nothing but a broken pieces that scattered a and will eventually hurt someone else. Pain is what drives me to give joy to others.

  17. breakthefog

    Hard to let go and move on… especially after a loss. But, you’ve made it!!! And I am more than proud of you!!! Life is worth living, with good and bad moments… Keep up!!!

    1. Crisly Zerrudo

      That’s true, although there are days that everything that happened just came back flashing before me and the pain is unbearable.

      1. breakthefog

        I can imagine… and I think there is no word which can take this away… but, as I’ve said before… I am here when needed! Bless you!

          1. breakthefog

            With pleasure, dear, always!!! Life is not always easy, but if we are one next to the other in hard times, we can rule it!!!

  18. Emman Damian

    Always have the courage to move on. Keep it up and good luck!

  19. Jennifer

    Very inspirational ! Where I’ve had my fair share of toxic romantic relationships, I think the worst has been being screwed over by a family member. Thank you for your kind words!

  20. Tracy Hageman

    Absolute love the motivation and courage behind this post!!

  21. Tiazim

    It all starts with self respect, so keep up the good work!

  22. Many people will benefit greatly from your sharing of your story. You have gone through a terrible time and I hope that you will have much happiness in the future.

  23. Sandra

    It is healing to share and help others through similar pain. Stay strong!

    1. Crisly Zerrudo

      Thank you Sandra.

  24. Indu

    I am still facing similar situation like the one portrayed in your emotions. Other side repeat cheating still both in emotions.

    1. Crisly Zerrudo

      I hope that one day, you will muster enough courage to let go and move on. Being cheated on is not easy, it breaks you and take all your self confident, but you can fight it.

  25. joleisa

    Once we tell ourselves that no one is responsible for our happiness, it gets easier. Loss of love and loved ones will make us sad but life goes on, and we have less of that life left so we should definitely move on and find ways to enhance our happiness. Loving this article.

  26. Gina Shirley

    I feel your pain. It’s been two years since we lost our 23 yr old. I still cry everyday. It’s a loss that you learn to live with, but it never actually gets better. You do figure out how to go on with life, but it is never easy. Keeping you in our thoughts and prayers.

  27. I’ve been in emotional pain and depressing situations in life.I can really understand how you must have felt and how much courage is needed to forget them to lead a normal life. But it’s motivating that you’ve moved on. Keep going , life will have wonderful things for you 🙂

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