How to Handle Jealous Co-Workers

How to Handle Jealous Co-Workers

“Crisly, the boss wanted to see you in his office”. It was those words that changed my life. Friends, have you ever encountered jealous people in your life? A friend, family, or a co-worker? Have you been treated like you don’t belong in the society just because you were different?

I would like to share with you an experience I had when I was still working in hospitality. It will show you how a co-worker can make you feel bad about yourself if you let them. I also wanted to share how to handle jealous co-workers. Workmates can either make you or break you, and mine tried the latter.

Most Disarming Thing

Before I became a purchasing manager, I was a waitress for 2 months and I liked it. Everyone was my friend, except for one grumpy dining supervisor. She always talked to me like she owns me. “Crisly, what is it that you’re wearing? This is not a church, my goodness. Crisly, start talking to the guests. Do not walk like you’re in the runway.” Those were her exact words to me on my very first day being a waitress.

I did what she told me to do. I came to work the next day and instead of wearing my black slack pants, and a white ¾ sleeve blouse, I wore a black denim mini skirt. As you may know, when jeans meet skirt, beauty happens. I paired it with a white blouse that showed my curves. I’m not trying to boast here. 😊 I started talking to customers and got big tips. I thought she would be happy of my achievement.

jealous co-wrokers

To my surprise, she placed me at the back of the dining area. She told me not to go out front to serve the customers. I should serve the office staff instead, and bring their food to the office. I must serve the drunk customers at the bar. She was mean and nasty.

What was the most disarming thing I have done to deal with her? Smile! Yes! Whenever people are mean to you, give them your best sparkling smile. My co-workers would talk to me about her, and we will just laugh about her attitude.

Never Assume Anything

For 2 months of being a waitress, I thought I knew my co-workers. I thought they were my friends. Until one the day, the office staff told me that the boss needed to talk to me. I came up to the office, my heart was beating so fast. I stood in front of the office door and was afraid to knock. Finally, after standing there for a few seconds, with a shaky hand I knocked on the door.

“Boss, you wanted to speak to me? Did I do something wrong?” My voice was trembling and the butterflies in my stomach were flying everywhere. I was afraid what is it that my grumpy supervisor did this time. To my surprise, I was promoted as an assistant purchasing manager. Never assume anything. Better ask first before making your own horror. 

First day in my new position, my friends, acted like they don’t know me. Half of them stopped talking to me. The other half started asking me how did I get the position after 2 months. Why did I accept it? Why me, and not them since they were in the company years before me. I could not believe that my “friends” were that toxic. Instead of hating them, I just smiled at them. I detached myself from people like them, and showed them the reason why it was me and not them.

Better Life Outside of Comfort Zone

Early, 2016 I became the head Purchasing Manager and they are still serving food in the same restaurant. Today, I am writing this blog in the comfort of my home, proud of how far I’ve gone. I am no longer working for anyone. I am no longer serving food to customers, and no longer dealing with grumpy supervisors. I’m not in a group of toxic workmates.

Those who questioned me, are still in the same position they’ve been working in for years. Don’t get me wrong, I have nothing against being a waitress. My point is that they became so blind with their own situation. That’s because they focused their energy on talking about other people behind their back. They became so comfortable inside a box. They forgot that there is a better life outside their comfort zone. If they just tried to use their energy and broaden their reach, they would have enjoyed the same life as I do now.

My experiences made me realize to never hate people that are jealous of you. I learned to respect their jealousy instead. They are the ones that think you are better than them. Don’t let your light dim just because it’s too shiny for them. Most of all, be happy in front of people that dislike you, it may inspire them.

Are you dealing with jealous workmates? What are you doing about it? Share your thoughts. We would like to know more on how to deal with jealous co-workers.

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Crisly Zerrudo

Crisly Zerrudo is an entrepreneur, blogger and writer. She loves sharing knowledge and motivating people who are going through challenging times. She is the co-founder of Empowering and Uplifting, a growing community of people who are inspiring and empowering others to overcome difficulties in life.

This Post Has 13 Comments

  1. Jealous people are actually longing to become ‘YOU’ because they secretly admire your qualities, the way others treat you and your overall personality!
    And Crisly the way you handled them and emerged as a rockstar is commendable! Keep shining:)

    1. Thank you Navneet, I agree with you, it’s sad that there are people who instead of supporting you they will try to destroy you. Such attitude won’t take them nowhere but thesame place where they have always been.

  2. Nice one !

  3. I think I don’t have any jealous coworker. But I have some friends who are highly jealousy with me. Sometime they don’t even talk to me, just for this.

  4. Love how you cope up with such co-workers. Commendable !!

  5. Seriously, the best thing you can do is just kill those toxic people with kindness, you are wayyy better than that negativity!!

    1. I love that, kill them with kindness 😃 thank you for dropping by Stephanie 😉

  6. Jealousy in the workplace is common. I have a few such coworkers who were jealous of me, so I can relate to this very well. I feel It takes a lot of patience not to lose your cool in front of other people and you handled them so well, Crisly.

    Happy blogging 🙂

    1. Thank you Preeti. Indeed, jealousy everywhere exist. Somebody once told me that you only win if you make your enemies think that they are winning, that was always the thought I keep reminding myself so I manage to return their negativity with a sparkling smile 😊😆

  7. This is so true and something that happens very often actually a little bit too often for my liking! I’m happy you got that promotion you earned it so you deserve it despite what co workers may think!

    1. True, thank you for your comment ☺️

  8. I like the story you shared! That’s crazy that the lady on your first day was still mean to you after you did what she said. Sometimes you just have to do what you think and not worry about what others think. Easier said than done though.
    I also can relate to what you said about those girls and how you got promoted to a higher position. Sometimes people waste all their energy on just being negative instead of being positive and that doesn’t get them anywhere.

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