“Crisly, the boss wanted to see you in his office”. It was those words that changed my life. Friends, have you ever encountered jealous people in your life? A friend, family, or a co-worker? Have you been treated like you don’t belong in the society just because you were different?
I would like to share with you an experience I had when I was still working in hospitality. It will show you how a co-worker can make you feel bad about yourself if you let them. I also wanted to share how to handle jealous co-workers. Workmates can either make you or break you, and mine tried the latter.
Most Disarming Thing
Before I became a purchasing manager, I was a waitress for 2 months and I liked it. Everyone was my friend, except for one grumpy dining supervisor. She always talked to me like she owns me. “Crisly, what is it that you’re wearing? This is not a church, my goodness. Crisly, start talking to the guests. Do not walk like you’re in the runway.” Those were her exact words to me on my very first day being a waitress.
I did what she told me to do. I came to work the next day and instead of wearing my black slack pants, and a white ¾ sleeve blouse, I wore a black denim mini skirt. As you may know, when jeans meet skirt, beauty happens. I paired it with a white blouse that showed my curves. I’m not trying to boast here. 😊 I started talking to customers and got big tips. I thought she would be happy of my achievement.
To my surprise, she placed me at the back of the dining area. She told me not to go out front to serve the customers. I should serve the office staff instead, and bring their food to the office. I must serve the drunk customers at the bar. She was mean and nasty.
What was the most disarming thing I have done to deal with her? Smile! Yes! Whenever people are mean to you, give them your best sparkling smile. My co-workers would talk to me about her, and we will just laugh about her attitude.
Never Assume Anything
For 2 months of being a waitress, I thought I knew my co-workers. I thought they were my friends. Until one the day, the office staff told me that the boss needed to talk to me. I came up to the office, my heart was beating so fast. I stood in front of the office door and was afraid to knock. Finally, after standing there for a few seconds, with a shaky hand I knocked on the door.
“Boss, you wanted to speak to me? Did I do something wrong?” My voice was trembling and the butterflies in my stomach were flying everywhere. I was afraid what is it that my grumpy supervisor did this time. To my surprise, I was promoted as an assistant purchasing manager. Never assume anything. Better ask first before making your own horror.
First day in my new position, my friends, acted like they don’t know me. Half of them stopped talking to me. The other half started asking me how did I get the position after 2 months. Why did I accept it? Why me, and not them since they were in the company years before me. I could not believe that my “friends” were that toxic. Instead of hating them, I just smiled at them. I detached myself from people like them, and showed them the reason why it was me and not them.
Better Life Outside of Comfort Zone
Early, 2016 I became the head Purchasing Manager and they are still serving food in the same restaurant. Today, I am writing this blog in the comfort of my home, proud of how far I’ve gone. I am no longer working for anyone. I am no longer serving food to customers, and no longer dealing with grumpy supervisors. I’m not in a group of toxic workmates.
Those who questioned me, are still in the same position they’ve been working in for years. Don’t get me wrong, I have nothing against being a waitress. My point is that they became so blind with their own situation. That’s because they focused their energy on talking about other people behind their back. They became so comfortable inside a box. They forgot that there is a better life outside their comfort zone. If they just tried to use their energy and broaden their reach, they would have enjoyed the same life as I do now.
My experiences made me realize to never hate people that are jealous of you. I learned to respect their jealousy instead. They are the ones that think you are better than them. Don’t let your light dim just because it’s too shiny for them. Most of all, be happy in front of people that dislike you, it may inspire them.
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