Have you ever experienced a three-day psychotic break?
Did you ever wake up to a whole new world?
Our Motivational Blogger Alissa Nash has went through some incredible experiences that have completely changed the way she sees the world. Read on and find out how.
What is your definition of success?
My definition of success involves the spiritual process of looking inward and really figuring out what makes me happy. Then applying my intellect to figure out what actions to take to achieve those goals. And lastly, developing the emotional maturity to recognize when I’ve achieved success in time to enjoy it.
What do you fear the most?
My biggest fear is losing my independence. When I lost the majority of sight to a brain tumor, it changed a lot of things in my life overnight. I can no longer see to read, drive a car, or work in my profession. But as long as I can still think, problem-solve, and make my own decisions, I know I can find solutions to all those problems. Retaining my independence has gone a long way to helping me understand that my situation is really not all that bad.
What qualities do you admire in others?
I admire strength and resiliency above all things, qualities that I believe I possess. But since my sight was compromised, I’ve also come to admire empathy and compassion more than I did previously. While these are not qualities that were natural for me, I have been on the receiving end of other people’s generosity often enough that I am actively seeking to emulate those traits as much as I can.
What area of life makes you feel the best?
Right now, my whole life makes me feel pretty good. I’ve always believed in celebrating small victories on the way to achieving big things.
Since my overall goals involve getting as much of my life pre-disability back as I can, I give myself permission to feel good about relatively simple things. Every time I do something that is scarier or more difficult to do because of my new view of the world, that is one less thing I have to worry about as I move forward in my life.
Is there anything you can’t let go, but you know you should?
There are things that happened in my childhood that caused me to distance myself from my mother. Valid things, but as we both age and my own grown children share some of their grievances about their childhoods, I can see that my mother probably did her best.
What life experience changed the way you see and define life?
The benign tumor that was removed in 2014 is the single incident that most changed my life. Not just physically, although adjusting to life as a visually impaired person has been challenging. But the biggest changes have been to my outlook and attitudes about life. I’ve had to do a lot of introspection, and have learned to be less defensive and guarded with other people.
When life pushes you over, how do you react?
With fierce determination to push back. Single-minded concentration on my goals. For all my new found compassion and feelings, I am happy that I have retained the ability to take problems and set-backs straight on, calmly find solutions to them, and then pursue those solutions no matter what.
Who/what motivates you the most?
My children are big motivators for me. It’s important to me that they think of me as a strong woman who will always be there for them, and that I model behaviors that inspire them to face whatever struggles they will be tasked with in life.
What qualities do you have that others should possess?
Strength, resilience, honesty and integrity. Since I was never a person who thought life was fair, I never had to waste time on the ‘why me’ phase of recovery. While I definitely appreciate the safety net that caught me when I really needed it, every belief I have ever stated about personal responsibility absolutely apply to me.
I don’t feel entitled to sit back and rely on a disability check if I can find a way to support myself. That is not a knock against those who do – finding work when you are disabled is beyond hard. But I believe that my discomfort with receiving assistance will ultimately allow me to establish myself as a fully contributing member of society.
What words of wisdom would you share with our community?
Don’t dis my ability. I usually don’t go for cutesy expressions, but I found this one on Pinterest and I’m adopting it as my motto. No matter what physical or mental challenges a person may have, we ALL have something to contribute to society. And society as a whole is lessened when we make it impossible for them to do so.
Blogger: Alissa Nash
Blogger Bio: She is the creator of Blind Girl’s Problems blog. Her blog chronicles the journey out through a somewhat grey new world, sharing insights on whatever services, products, resources and opportunities she can uncover as she adjusts to the life of the visually impaired. Sometimes sarcastic, always blunt and surprisingly conservative on certain issues, this blind girl invites you to come along on this unexpected journey.
Blog link: Blind Girl’s Problems
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