Have you ever had difficulty succeeding in something?
Did you try to overcome challenges and triumph over fear?
Our Motivational Blogger Anita Louise gave us an amazing insight on how she has dealt with these obstacles.
What is your definition of success?
We are all successful at something, whether we realize it or not. When our awareness expands, we come to understand that our thoughts are creative. With that realization, we begin to comprehend that there are no limits on what the universe is capable of giving to us.
As conscious creators, we can CHOOSE the success we seek. For me, living a happy, healthy life – free of stress, surrounded by people I love and who love me in return would be a good definition of success.
What do you fear the most?
For many years, I have been working on eliminating fear from my life and vocabulary. Yes, there are still things that scare me … spiders and snakes, losing someone I love, and more. However, when worry/fear tries to grip me, I do my best to shift my thoughts away from the fear. Once I became aware of the fact that we attract to ourselves what we focus on, when thoughts of fear appear, I do my best to recognize them and quickly replace them with something more positive and uplifting.
Gary Zukav, author of “The Seat of the Soul”, says that the opposite of love is not hate, but fear. It is fear that causes war and all other conflict and discord. The more we understand this, the more safe and peaceful the world will become.
What qualities do you admire in others?
Those who have been able to overcome challenges, face up to and triumph over fear, are the people I admire the most. Also, those who give of themselves to help others in need hold a place of high esteem in my heart. Life isn’t always “fair” and the way we want things to turn out may not be the same as what we experience. However, each one of us has a choice in how we respond to a situation.
It was quite a few years ago, when I began working on responding rather than reacting to people and situations. I don’t know who said it, but I firmly believe … It’s not WHAT happens, but how we respond to what happens that makes all the difference.
What area of life makes you feel the best?
This question caused me to really think. I definitely enjoy my alone time … reading, writing, working on projects I find interesting and stimulating. However, the times that stand out in my life are the times spent with others.
Working on myself, learning to become a better human being feels very good. Taking what I learn and sharing it with those who are interested in making positive changes in their own lives is even more rewarding and feels even better.
Is there anything you can’t let go, but you know you should?
Yikes! Another question causing me to look deep within. Forgiveness comes to mind. Letting go of the pain and hurt of past relationships. Forgiving not only the person(s) who caused that pain and hurt, but also forgiving myself for allowing yours truly and those I love to be in an upsetting, stressful, harmful situation.
It’s amazing how even when I think I’ve totally let go of past hurts how something will crop up to remind me there is still work to do. Life is a continuous learning experience, and I am a lifelong learner.
What life experience changed the way you see and define life?
Isn’t it interesting that the most difficult times in our lives are often when the greatest amount of growth occurs? Sadly, my youngest child lost her life when she was only three-years-old. For any parent who has lost a child, they know the pain is beyond description. How to make sense of such a devastating loss will, without a doubt, change the way you see and define life.
Life is a precious gift that can easily be taken for granted. Fortunately, when my daughter died, I had already embarked on a path of personal growth and development. Her death accelerated my journey, and made it possible to treasure the time I had with her.
When life pushes you over, how do you react?
Life’s challenges can make you bitter or better. Rather than asking, “Why me?” I choose to ask, “What good can come from this experience?” My faith in a Power greater than myself, a loving entity that wants only the best for me, helps me to respond with hope. One of my favorite quotes comes from the Desiderata – “No doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.”
Who/what motivates you the most?
We all have goals, dreams, and desires, but what is it that keeps us consistently and persistently moving toward them? Just like everyone else, I want the best life has to give. However, beyond wanting we must believe we deserve that which we desire.
There were days when it seemed as if no matter how hard I tried, I couldn’t/didn’t stay motivated to achieve the goals I had set for myself. It wasn’t until getting down to my core beliefs, down to the part of me that recognized that each and every one of us is at our core. Good, that I was able to remain motivated and give myself permission to succeed.
What qualities do you have that others should possess?
Learning to love yourself is the greatest gift. It was a true revelation when I realized that I talked to myself in a way I wouldn’t dream of speaking to another person. My self-talk was beyond critical. It was downright mean and ugly.
There’s an old song by Whitney Houston that says, “Learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all.” I believe this is true. We can only give what we have, and the greatest gift we can give is love. The quality that everyone should possess is the ability to truly love themselves.
What words of wisdom would you share with our community?
If your life isn’t everything you want it to be, there is something you can do about it. Everything starts with you and the thoughts you dwell on. I would encourage everyone, no matter how old or how young, to embrace the practice of personal development. Don’t expect an overnight miracle, but do know that as you learn and then put the principles into practice, you’ll see your life begin to change.
Life is a reflection of your innermost thoughts and beliefs. Not everyone grew up with loving parents who instilled positive and life-affirming philosophies into their children. Once you become an adult, you have the choice of what you will embrace and what you will discard. Choose attitudes and ideas that enhance your life and the lives of those around you.
Blogger: Anita Louise
Blogger Bio: Anita has always been an avid reader of love stories, and her passion for romance found another outlet when she discovered how much fun it was to write about her own smart and sexy heroes and heroines. She is also an ardent and devoted student of personal development. Weaving the life changing principles that guided her to the love of her life and to a happy marriage is an important aspect in each her novels.
Blog link: Anita Louise Romance
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