Divorce Blessing in Disguise

Divorce Blessing in Disguise

What is a divorce?

Is it a curse?

Or is divorce blessing in disguise?

Divorce! A heart-wrenching word ending one’s happy moments. A dissolution of marriage and the separation of two hearts that has been one.

How many among you failed in countless things in your life, including your marriage? You are not alone. It has been 5 years since I married a man whom I thought was my first and last marriage. I thought that was a dream come true! 6 months after what it seems like a perfect marriage, things started crumbling down. I used to ask, why do people get married only to have fallen out of love later, wreck each other’s lives and get divorced? That was a question from a naive version of myself.

I once thought that when two people decided to get married, they have decided to be with each other, no matter what! Two people willing to make each other’s life perfect even through imperfect situations! Ohh, wait! Was I wrong to think that way about marriage? No, I don’t think I’m wrong. Have you thought the same thing when you got married?

Beautiful Thing

Yes! Marriage is a beautiful thing. Two hearts become one, promised to hold each other through thick and thin. Understand each other even in rough times, and love each other till death do you part. BUT, that’s only when you married the RIGHT person.

I was 23 years old when I met a man twice my age through the internet. 4 years later he came to the Philippines and it was May of 2013 when I was living the dream, (that’s what I thought). Feeling like a Princess wearing a red beautiful wedding gown with a long flowing trail, walking in the aisle of petals, in a beautiful garden. There, in the altar waiting is my prince with a wide smile on his face. At last, after years of a long distance relationship, we finally put an end to the distance. I couldn’t ask for more (at least that’s what I thought).

Fast forward to six months later after that perfect moment, the benevolent prince (I thought) is turning into someone else that I didn’t know. The prince I promised to love and to cherish, till death do us part was turning into a malevolent black-hearted villain. You think he changed? No, he didn’t! People we thought we knew do not change, it was the mask that fell off and revealed their true identity.

Did I blame him for all the pain and suffering I went through? To be honest, Yes I did. In fact, I accursed him for everything that he put me through. That includes unpaid utility bills on my name, unpaid apartment bills, unpaid cash debts. Then, telling people that I left him, stole all his money and debit card. What a great man, wasn’t he? Certainly NOT!

Save the Marriage

Save the Marriage

We all tend to point fingers at each other if something did not work out, instead of trying to work it out. You might be wondering, did I gave up easily when the shit hit the fan? No! I tried my best, at least I thought that was my best, to save the marriage because I didn’t believe in divorce. But relationships are like dancing the tango, you need two to tango right? You cannot do it alone. My man recently showed me a quote from Facebook: Love is like a fart, if you have to force it, it’s probably shit. This is exactly what it felt like in my past marriage.

Later on, I realized that it wasn’t his fault at all. It was all my fault. I underestimated the power of the dark side (haha) but seriously, there is no villain if there is no prey, right? I was naive and foolish! I was out of my mind! I married someone I verily have no idea who he really was. I married someone I meet and talked to behind the computer screen. If I knew what I know now, I would never waste those years of my life for a nonsense like that. But then, I wouldn’t know what I know now if it isn’t because of that nonsense experience.

Divorce Blessing in Disguise

Actually, I believe that my divorce was a blessing in disguise and I believe that it might be for many of you. Don’t you agree? I think Divorce is the best gift you could give to yourself. If you don’t agree with me, let me tell you why Divorce is a blessing in disguise.

What is a blessing? According to my friend, Mr. Google, the blessing is a beneficial thing for which one is grateful. It is a prayer asking for God’s favor and protection.

I define blessing as:

B – Beautiful

L – Learning and

E – Experiences

S – Served as my

S – Strength during

I – Indecisiveness

N- Naivety and

G – Grudges

Why my divorce is a blessing in disguise?

Divorce is not for the weak

Divorce is Not for the Weak

Divorce is not for the weak! It takes all your strength and courage to keep going after a heartbreaking experience. It is normal to feel defeated, hurt, and broken to pieces, but when you get back up, no one can shake you.

My divorce helped me know myself better, it defined who I am and it encouraged growth. I discovered my inner self and I became the woman I am today. I am smarter, stronger and the confident woman more than I ever thought I could be.

Most of the time divorce changes us, but it should change us for the better. You might agree with me, that most divorced women became women with quality and standards. We, divorced women don’t settle for something or someone who doesn’t meet our standards (men, hint for you) isn’t it?

Divorced women become stronger, wiser, more successful and more prepossessing. Don’t believe me?

Katty Perry, Kim Kardashian, Wendy Davis, Sheryl Sandberg, Elizabeth Gilbert are just a few in many names that can prove it other than myself.

Divorce is a Learning Experience

Through my divorce, I learned that you don’t marry someone just because you think you love them. You marry someone because you believe and know you are willing to fall in love over and over again.  Marriage can’t work if two people won’t work it out.

“I love you, but I’m not in love with you anymore”. Painful but these are the words that helped me realize being married is not for people who just “love” each other. LOVE is not enough! If you are planning to get married, don’t do it if you think you just love the person you’re going to marry. Marry them because you are in love with them and will continue to do so. Do it because you know each other so well and you can make magic happen.

Marriage is not like eating a hot potato that you can just drop it when it’s too hot to eat. You don’t marry someone because they complete you. You should marry someone because you complete each other, you grow together, and you learn how to complement each other.

Divorce Means Second Chances

How many of you believe in second chances? My divorce granted me a second chance to be proud of myself, learn from my mistakes, and to appreciate myself. We could never fix what was already done, that is not what second chances is about. We are given a second chance to prove to ourselves that we could do better and to discover our full potential.

Every pain you felt becomes your ammo for every challenge that life throws at you. Every broken piece that shattered, becomes your shield from anything that will try to destroy you. And this is the part that you become who you really are, and discover what you are made of.

My divorce led me to someone who taught me how privileged I am to be divorced. See, my friend? Divorce is not the end of the world, even if feels like it at first. After you realized that your separation from people who are making your life miserable is actually a blessing, you will be one of the happiest people you could ever imagine.

Serendipity through Divorce

After all the pain and heartbreaks, serendipity brought me a man whom I never thought would exist. If this is not a blessing, I don’t know what to call it. Because I was brave enough to let go of what was undermining my soul, I was able to appreciate the second chance that life rendered to me.

After two years of wheedling, my man, John managed to win me over. His love is undeniably overflowing that sometimes it made me doubt myself if I am worthy of it. He never fails to remind me how it is to be truly loved, how it is to be trusted and how it really feels not to be lied to. And I am ready to prove that I am not wrong to believe that marriage is beautiful when you marry the RIGHT person. I appreciate every drop of tears, every pain I felt, and every debt I paid. Because my divorce is indeed a blessing in disguise.

Don't be Afraid of Divorce

If you are someone who is facing a divorce, don’t be afraid. The pain you are feeling now is nothing compared to the joy you will be feeling later. Things might not be what you wanted now, but it is actually preparing you for what you will need later. Be brave and wipe away your tears together with the person who made you cry and made you feel weak.

If you are divorced do you believe that your divorce is a blessing in disguise? How did you survive a harrowing experience?

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Crisly Todorovic

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This Post Has 127 Comments

  1. Juli

    It’s better to come out of a marriage that makes you unhappy than to stay and waste years of trying to help a broken person.

    1. Crisly Zerrudo

      I agree with you Juli.

  2. bossLadyBLOOM

    I think my divorce was a blessing. I never romantically loved the man i married and we were both very unhappy. Loved reading this. Thank you.

    1. Crisly Zerrudo

      Thank you for sharing your thoughts.

  3. Evelyn

    I believe there are always ways to save a marriage except, the union was entered into for other reasons and not for love.

    1. Crisly Zerrudo

      I agree with you, there are many way to save the marriage, but one person can’t do it alone. It takes two to tango.

  4. Allie Bock

    I am glad you were able to see the blessing in disguise. Not all change is bad and it takes a lot of courage to make a change.

    1. Crisly Zerrudo

      Thabk you for the thoughtful comment.

  5. thehamiltoninc

    My parents divorced and they in fact did become better people because of it. They got along and still maintained a great friendship until my dad died in 2007. Life does indeed go on.

    1. Crisly Zerrudo

      Indeed, it really does.

  6. Picki Penguin

    I never knew your story before. You are a strong indep Woman and you certainly showed the world that divorce is the end of the world. It is infact the beginning of a beautiful new journey. I hope your journey continues to be full of happiness and blessings 🙂

    1. Crisly Zerrudo

      Thank you so much. Yes, divorce is a new beginning of a beautiful journey.

  7. TheSuperMomLife

    I think it depends on the situation. If the kids are being affected, then it’s better to divorce.

  8. Wandering Waffles

    I agree with the comment above – it really depends on the situation. And especially if you were forced to marry someone because of a child, as my mom was after she got pregnant with me. And honestly divorcing my father is maybe the best decision she has ever made.
    I think that divorces are just a result of not well though and taken actions in a hurry.

    1. Crisly Zerrudo

      I think divorce is not a decision you make in a hurry. And yes it really depends on the situation.
      Applaud for your mom to pursue her freedom.

      1. Crisly Zerrudo

        You said it well.

  9. Casey

    I’ve had a few friends whose parents have been through one themselves, and I’ve witnessed how these usually extroverted individuals suddenly turn silent at the slightest mention of the D word. Finger cross, no more…

    1. Crisly Zerrudo

      Most children think it’s their fault why their parents got divorced. I think it’s up to the parents to explain to their children the right way.

  10. Hằng Nguyễn

    Yes. I also agree that divorce is blessing in disguise. Many wives who can’t stay with her husband any longer but choose to stay because of their children. I know they sacrifice for their children’s happiness but it’s not a good idea. The woman who can’t enjoy happiness herself can’t bring happiness to others, I think.

    1. Crisly Zerrudo

      I agree with you, most reason why two unhappy couple don’t commit divorce because of the children which is wrong, in my own opinion. They would rather stay in marriage, make each other’s life hell and wreck their child’s life.

  11. Wandering Waffles

    I meant that if you don’t make a decision in a hurry like marrying someone – you won’t get to the divorce part.

    1. Crisly Zerrudo

      You are right.

  12. Anissa

    What a way to put a positive spin on something that seems negative. My takeaways from this is that It’s not the end of world because your relationship ended, it’s just the beginning of what was already waiting behind door number 2. Makes one look at the glass half full. The love quote about the fart was funny!

    1. Crisly Zerrudo

      If door number 1 closes, there are still a lot of doors that yet to be open. Haha, I’m glad you found the humor in it 🙂

  13. iamunbothered

    Divorce is a blessing no matter how you look at it. And your story sounds exactly like mine, only I was in my early 4-0 when I first got married. Of course, I believed the universe was beginning to smile on me after having gotten the middle finger for so long. But no it lasted exactly two years even though I was willing to overlook the fact that he had already married four times- I was the fifth. Long story short, I had left my job, was deported after trumped up charges- were living in Saudi, etc. I’m back to country and still trying to get the pieces of my life together. Sorry it’s been long.

    1. Crisly Zerrudo

      You will get there, one day you will smile and give the middle finger back to the universe :). I wish you happiness and life full of success and praying that you’ll get the pieces back together very soon.

        1. Crisly Zerrudo

          Wishing you all the best Victoria.

  14. wonkabar23

    I am glad you made the most of a trying time in your life

    1. Crisly Zerrudo

      In times of trial, that’s where we can develop inner strength.

  15. Kate Werthmann

    I dont see divorce as a bad thing necessarily. Like you said, its about second chances. And whats more, its being able to identify a healthier life for everyone involved.

    1. Crisly Zerrudo

      I agree with you.

  16. Ingrid

    You know life is like that but we pick up the pieces and go again. Marriage is not for the selfish and immature. I went through a similar experience but you know what the issues were facing me from the beginning but I thought they would go away. I found out the hard way that problems don’t go away because you refuse to acknowledge them. Now I know you are no linger willing to life’s pray. Pray and put the past in your rear-view mirror. You are beautiful and strong. The world will make way for the likes of you. Ask God for his guidance through what was for in my case, a time of great pain . Be strong Sis..

    1. Crisly Zerrudo

      I believe it was all God’s will. Thank you sister.

  17. Daniel Enwefah

    I totally agree with you, if things are not working out after trying to make things work out then the relationship should be ended

    1. Crisly Zerrudo

      Well said. If only one person is trying, then it can never be done.

  18. Team Uy

    i really hope that my marriage won’t lead to divorce. but for some case, if there is abuse and negligence, i will suggest to go for divorce. It helps broken couple to move on with their separate lives and stop the hurting 🙂

    1. Crisly Zerrudo

      I agree, and I hope the same thing for you. Life is so beautiful to worry about things that will only give us un healthy mind and lives. Good luck with your marriage and do not worry, if you marry the right person you have nothing to worry about facing divorce.

  19. traveloptician

    I agree with it, better to be alone than with someone who is not treating you right

    1. Crisly Zerrudo

      You said it very well.

  20. Kayla

    Sorry you had to go through that. Divorce can be a good or bad thing. I am personally still married, 3 years, but I have certainly shouted the D word before. Everyone has tough times, and sometimes getting out is the answer.

  21. Marie Fe Amaya

    I agree with you dear. Divorce is a blessing and I hope divorce bill in the Philippines will be approve. Many wives in the Philippines suffer and no choice even if they’re not happy with their marriage anymore since divorce is still not legal in the Philippines. We have the same story but I am not married before. I know God has a reason why we did not get married with that man. But it took many years of me before I healed. I can’t smile anymore for many years. I don’t want to talk to anyone. It changes me a lot. Every day, every minute, all I always pray and crying to God to heal my heart and learn my heart to forgive those people who hurt me. Thanks God, I have now a peace of mind and no more hatred in my heart.

    1. Crisly Zerrudo

      It’s just a matter of time. As we go along with life, the time of healing comes in a really good way. I’m glad you have found the true meaning of happiness and that is to let go of all the hatred and live a happy life.

  22. Nik

    Blog on a something very critical issue. I loved the the example with the Blessing.

  23. Kamapala Chukwuka

    What a beautiful and insightful post! Your strength is reflected in every word of this post. I believe marriage is a sacred bond and like you said, it takes 2 to tango. I’m glad you were brave even to go your own way, if not you would never have met John the right man for you. Loved reading every minute of this beautiful post x

    1. Crisly Zerrudo

      I really appreciate every words you’ve said, thank you so much.

  24. Anshika

    I truly believe that divorce is nothing to be ashamed about, infact it is so much better than the daily abuses, fights, stress. It is better to let go the toxic relationship.

  25. pslater1972

    This is very current in my life so a useful read. Definitely food for thought.

    1. Crisly Zerrudo

      Hopefully you found courage through this.

  26. Anshika

    I totally agree, divorce is nothing to be ashamed about infact it’s a right to come out of that toxic relationship. Couples don’t usually understand, what worse is taking each other abuses, fighting for no reason, taking the stress. It is better to let go off the relationship.

    1. Crisly Zerrudo

      completely agree with you, thank you for sharing your views.

  27. athomewithnich

    I never had any experience with divorce until I met my husband. My parents were married for 30 years, literally until death do-us-part and although they went through some tough periods they were a team and worked together on their marriage and that it what I aimed for too. My husband’s parents divorced when he was 11 and in the 12+ years we’ve been together I can see why his parents divorce was the best option. They are just not matched, but are amicable which makes family get togethers easy. Fortunately my hubby is a straight down the line, logical kind of person and even at 11 he knew divorce was the best option for this parents. He took their experience and vowed not to make the same mistakes. Unfortunately his sister didn’t see it that way and in all of her relationships she makes the same mistakes, stays with someone when she shouldn’t and selfishly choosing to have a child with someone knowing that they weren’t committed and even though the guy has cheated on her, she still sticks with him. I’m sorry you had to go through a divorce but very happy that you didn’t stick with it knowing it wasn’t working, why waste the time and energy? I’m super happy that you have found someone who adores you.

    1. Crisly Zerrudo

      Thank you for this very insightful thoughts that you’ve shared with us. I really appreciate it. If you married the right person, divorce is not even an option I am happy that your husband is the person that he is. I am also glad that my man never fails to remind me that relationship with someone who appreciates and respect you is something you have to keep.

  28. Sksuperdeals

    Hats off to your dedication through life. Your article reminds me someone.

    1. Crisly Zerrudo

      Thank you.

  29. Usama

    There is no way to tell if the divorce is a blessing or not coz every story is different but i agree with you that if your marriage is not working even after trying your best, its a good thing to get your ways parted!

    1. Crisly Zerrudo

      Thank you for sharing your thoughts.

  30. Jerri

    I like how you show that there is life after divorce and to move on. I know that now a person is now free for the right one to come along.

    1. Crisly Zerrudo

      Thank you, it is not our fault having experienced a bad relationships, but it will be our faults if we stay. Life won’t end after the relationship ended, it is only the beginning of the new journey.

  31. Vivian

    Thank you Crisly for this heartfelt and personal article. Your story reminds me of mine only that I wasn’t married but it was the most hellish time. When in such situations it’s always good to look inward for a lasting solution, blessings

    1. Crisly Zerrudo

      You’re welcome Vivian, I am glad that you have found a way to get out and run away from that hell. I am sure that your experienced play a big role in what you are today. Blessings to you too.

  32. Explorethe6

    While I’ve never been married I do agree that people shouldn’t be afraid of divorce. I’ve seen too many people stay in unhappy/unhealthy marriages

    1. Crisly Zerrudo

      I’m glad we have the same views. I don’t understand why would people stay in a bad unhealthy relationship and stay wretched, rather than end it.

  33. traveloptician

    It’s definitely a blessing! It’s better to be alone and happy than unhappy and in a bad relationship 🙂

    1. Crisly Zerrudo

      You are absolutely right. If the relationship is making you miserable it is time to end it.

    1. Crisly Zerrudo

      You’re welcome, thank you for stopping by.

  34. pujarinimitra

    Such an insighful post. I appreciate your perspective.

    1. Crisly Zerrudo

      Thank you, glad you do.

  35. Buru chakraborty

    If Hv prblm in Your reltion ship then better … Option is Divorce… I think

  36. panushwari

    After seeing a number of my friends going through bad marriages, I would say your blog is really relevant to those who are facing this turmoil in life. Thanks for the insights.

    1. Crisly Zerrudo

      You’re welcome. There is always good in something bad, all we need to do is face it and find it. Hope your friends could face the bad marriage right and find something good from it.

  37. Hema Gayatri

    A unhappy marriage is worst, it is always best to walk out of a bad relationship

    1. Crisly Zerrudo

      Yes, you are right. If a relationship doesnt give you happiness but only sadness, end it and let go.

  38. Ingrid

    Divorce is one of the most painful experiences one can have,but there is life after divorce. When we emerge from the initial period of mourning we begin to learn as part of a reflective process. . One thing we learn is that marriage is not for the naive. After my divorce, like you I wanted to prove that marriage can be beautiful and that I can make a marriage work. I prayed to God for the opportunity to show this and he sent a good man into my life. I pray for the same for you.

    1. Crisly Zerrudo

      I am glad you found someone that helped you see that divorce is a blessing in disguise.

  39. Ummu

    I agree with all your thoughts in this post…
    Even some people see that divorce is something wrong for whatever reasons, it is actually the right thing to do in some condition.
    Thank you for sharing your story. I believe this could help those who are having hard times in facing divorce.

  40. Mag

    Unique perspective with thoughtfulness. Thanks for sharing your points.

  41. Jhay

    A new perspective from a guy who lives in a country where divorce is forbidden. Thanks for the insight.

  42. chigonz

    Wow this struck me: “..it was the mask that fell off and revealed their true identity.”
    It’s really sad to know that divorce is a norm these days.. Hopefully everyone should know their partner’s worth.

  43. Alison

    I could not agree with you more. My parents are divorced. My only regret as a child of that union, is that they should have done it earlier. They would have been better, happier people .Trying to hang on when there is nothing left only makes you bitter. You put it so well, it is the beginning and not the end. If only more people saw it that way. All the very best!

    1. Crisly Zerrudo

      Thank you so much, I’m glad to know that you as a child of broken marriage understand it well. People choose to be with each other because of their children even though they are making things worse, I also understand that it is their children’s taht they are protecting, but most people does not understand that they are doing more harm than good.

  44. ZyraKuma

    My parents are not divorce so I don’t really know the feeling of it. This gave me more of an insight on marriage. Nice post.

  45. Blair Villanueva

    Thanks for sharing this post. I think both marriage and divorce are beautiful on their own purposes.

  46. Chloe Minette

    This is a positive spin on what a divorce is, it doesn’t have to be this terrifying thing! People should be praised for even giving marriage a chance!

  47. Jane T

    an interesting perspective. thanks for sharing

  48. aisasami

    My coworker just got divorced last month and he is so relieved. He wasn’t happy, he said, and whenever he came home, there was more tension than happiness.

  49. Aakanksha

    Hmmm. Very interesting article. One of my dear ones went through it recently. Will share this post with them!

  50. Claire Roach

    Thanks for sharing such a great blog post – I am still great friends with my ex husband and people think it’s odd.

  51. Brains and Bodies

    I love your analogy of letters and it’s crazy how when commitment comes into it and things out of our control how things can go down rapidly but I am glad you are viewing divorce positively.

  52. Divorce can be the most painful decision and the longest process to take. Its not fast as you can get married. However having said that we need to think of our kids before the separation. If you don’t have kids and not happy with the marriage, i guess i wouldn’t think twice

  53. Nina

    It’s hard to think of something as painful as divorce as blessing in disguise. However, it is a raw truth and there’s no denying that a failed relationship could actually pave a better path for a separated couple in the future.

  54. Well said. I was married to a great man, but he just wasn’t the one for me. I learned a lot about myself during that divorce and certainly grew from that experience.

  55. Neil Alvin Nicerio

    We can’t really judge people. Some divorce works well on others some damages them for life.

  56. My divorce was a blessing! It was hard but i learned so much. 12 years later i remarried my soulmate and best friend. I am a complete and total person and we mesh together!

  57. Deserted_Queen

    It’s better to get divorced and being happy rather than being in an unhealthy marriage and dying daily I personally think. This is a real good point.

  58. Mane

    Very inspiring! This is an eye-opener for me and to all single ladies that marriage is something that you need to pray for. Like what you’ve said it’s not easy. I’m happy that you’ve found John who let you experience the true meaning of love. And I think you are right, in your situation you can call divorce as “blessing in disguise”. If you’re in a relationship that doesn’t serve you well, it’s better to let it go.

  59. Divorce is definitely not for the weak, I may not be able to say that it is going to be okay but surely we all have the capability to bounce back from every adversity including a rocky marriage that would result to its dissolution. But just like any adversity, we fall, we rise up! This is such a meaningful post and definitely an inspiring one. Thanks for sharing.

  60. TheKitchenDoc

    It is not easy to get out of relationship that you willfully entered into and then break all the bonds and get rid of it but it’s for better in most scenarios.

  61. Pujarini Mitra

    It’s a tough decision for sure but it is up to every individual to decide whether it is worth fighting for your marriage or proceed with divorce. It has to be a well thought decision.

  62. Divorce is a hard thing, but it can be necessary. It’s hard when only one person is invested in the relationship. I believe everything is for the best. We go through every experience for a reason

  63. Everything On A Plate

    We know exactly have you feel ! one of our members has been through this too

  64. Swati

    Beautiful! Sometimes staying away is better than suffering everyday. I loved the positivity in your post. I am sure it will be of great support to many going through this phase.

  65. misszestymagazine

    Beautiful! Your post will be of great help for many. It is better to stay away than suffer every day. Strength to everyone struggling

  66. Jeferson

    Life sometimes has miraculous ways that intervened between us because sometimes it feels like unbearable we don’t do anything about it and then life took over…. Miraculous like a divine intervention… .. So it can be a blessing for some exceptional cases….. And u would know if God has blessed this….. Life is showing us the way in mysterious ways and would only later realize it is for good….

  67. Blair Villanueva

    I think in marriage, you should always have a back-up plan for the worst. At least when divorce happens, you are ready.

  68. my wee thoughts

    Oh I’m married but I wouldn’t want to experience divorce 🙁 but tis article would really help people who’s unfortunately going through with it.

  69. moasho

    The long distance relationship thing is actually terrified me, i am in one now and we supposed to get married the next summer, l hope things don’t end up like that 🙂

    1. Crisly Zerrudo

      Don’t let my story startle you, though long distance relationships are scary, some are worth it. Just one lesson I would like you to remember, always listen to you instinct, and evaluate. Do not let my story affect your story, learn from it instead. Don’t make thesame mistakes I did. I forgot to value myself, I ignored my instinct, and I fooled myself. If you can sense that something is wrong, something might be really wrong, so evaluate and check.
      Good luck, and I wish you all the best.

      1. moasho

        Thank you so much Crisly, i do have worries but i don’t know how to handle them properly, i guess i should evaluate the situation and figure out them, you gave me the biggest favor i need right now <3

        1. Crisly Zerrudo

          You are very much welcome, I’m glad I could shed some light.
          I wish you all the best.

  70. Annreeba

    I never knew your story before. I am not married. Your post will be of great help for many.

  71. krish

    Separation , may be for any reason , causes pain..having said that , I feel that a cancer should not be allowed to grow and spread to complete body..should be removed as soon as it is diagnosed….one got to have a strong heart and mind to take a call…

    1. Crisly Zerrudo

      Couldn’t agree more with you Krish. I Love the metaphor. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.

  72. Meygan @ AllTheRooms

    Love how empowering and refreshing this post is! I think a lot of times, separation and divorce are seen as purely negative events, but I think it takes a lot of courage to leave a bad or unhappy situation and strive for more!

  73. Jennifer Dagi

    I strongly believe divorce is a blessing in disguise if you marry the wrong person. There is nothing more liberating than breaking free from a devastating marriage; it feels like coming out of jail!

    1. Crisly Zerrudo

      I totally agree with you. Why not set yourself free instead of locking yourself in an unhealthy marriage. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.

  74. blair villanueva

    Divorce is tough, however it does saves lives and relationships. Sometimes it gives benefits depends on your situation.

  75. REMO

    Sometimes, things happened in life which can be blessing in disguise. I can relate to this fact.

  76. Glad to see this can be a positive experience, even if it might not seem like it in the short term.

  77. wajihabaig

    that is true, i mean all things in life good, bad they all are blessings. we just tend to figure it out way later in life

  78. Nina

    One reason why I feel bad for the couples in the Philippines whose relationships did not work is because divorce is not an option. I am happy that you found somebody who brought you healing with the pain of past relationship.

    1. Crisly Zerrudo

      Thank you Nina 🙂

  79. chartrends

    So nice of you to share this. Love your insight.

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